Hi to all:) I hope your summer plans are going all...i just bought a new magazine, and found a good article, that i want to translate. Its real that from the time when we were little we wanted to have some best friends that will help us in each situation, that we be around us, guide and listen to our stories and life problems. Unfortunately, this isn't lasting, as the life gives us other opportunities, possibilities, and we wont be able every-time to be near our BFF. I will show you some friends' situations, and some remedies..:)
A new beggining...
You are big now, and you have got different ways to go through life. You go to a college/lyceum/university and your BFF is still there, in your ex-school. Now you cant speak more often, you cant meet each others and speak about all that's in common. Even thought you discovered new people, choices, you don't have more time to speak with your bff, and when you meet you speak just about someone's univer or college.
Solution: In this cases, no one is guilty, so that you both can use some efforts to meet each other , even if it can be for one time per week, so you will know all that happened in her life. Mostly, you can include her/him in your new friends-team, so you will be together :)
You are here, she/he is there...
It came so that she has to move in another city/town. You wont have more time to spend together, what can you do?!
Solution: Sure, this will change all your communication, but you still have skipe/msng/emails , even if you will have to write 5pages :D Speak, if you can meet each other maybe just for one day, but you`ll remember those days when you used to hang together. Usually, being again together "deletes" the whole distance between you:)
New entry, her boy-friend...
A classical story: she's got a lover, she's spending all her time just with him, yes, its clearly, that from the beggining she's in love, her whole world is in his hands, but later, you observe that she doesnt observe you, like she did. Come on, you were waiting for some meetings and parties, and now she's just with him?!
Solution: Well, all you need is patience. the best thing is to speak with her, and tell her, that she's till now meaningful to you, and you miss those times when you used to be together. If she keeps on you, she'll understand and plan some hours just for you .Organize your daily meeting hours and have fun!
Another group of friends...
You began not to speak so often, she doesn't accept your invitations, she isn't answering to your SMS...But you discover that she's now with another group of friends, you see her lovely" photos all over her internet profiles...
Solution: The solution always comes from a courageous discussion with each other. Maybe you think she wont agree but just give her time, maybe she didn't think that you'll feel bad or "unseen. Ask her if you have done something wrong, and tell her your feelings. She'll understand:) If no...:| than remember that friends go and come, and you'll always meet somebody new.
This ostentation...this changes..:s
She began again now to speak with you, she seems sooo different, you don't recognize her, she began to be different, meaner, strange, she's not so sociable...unfortunately, this can be some depressive periods about what she doesn't want to speak, abuse of alcohol, or suicidal tryings...
Solution: Even if you begin to be irritated, don't answer her with the same methods. Ask her why is she so, what happened, what isn't like it was...Is she doesn't want to answer, take a breath, believe that all will be ok. Begin to look after her, see how's she reacting, how is she seeing the situation, surprise her, ask her parents what isn't so..All will be ok.
Conclusion: Otherwise, friends come and go, even if for me this sounds horrible. Its hard to loose someone, but you will meet new persons, you shouldn't close yourself is someone went from your life, because that is just the past, but the future is in front of you...
Love,and good luck,
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